Bill Hughes taught me something that will forever be a game changer and life saver in my marriage. That is, FORGIVENESS!
I met with Bill one on one for a few months after facing some difficulty in my marriage. Our sessions were hardly spent talking about all of the things that I thought were wrong in my marriage or with my spouse. Instead, I was always challenged to search my heart for any root of unforgiveness.
I'm not a person who holds grudges or struggles to forgive. I actually forgive pretty quickly. But I wasn't always aware of the small offenses committed by my husband, that were slowly eating away at me, eventually producing strife in our home.
Since meeting with Bill, now I choose in an instant to forgive the smallest offense from my husband. Doing so has given me so much more peace and compassion.
If there's strife in our home, I figure there is unforgiveness somewhere. In fact, I have found that to be the case.
Forgiveness seems like such a simple revelation for how to heal a marriage. But, it's powerful! Forgiveness is powerful because it's God's commandment to us.
Bill always leads by God's Holy word and that's why I appreciate his ministry most.
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Thanks to Bill Hughes’ coaching I have begun to contemplate and experience the power of God’s grace, the miraculous effervescent fountain that the Lord is waiting for us to drink from. Bill has shown me that once we accept this gift of grace through forgiveness and faith, we are no longer bound by our limited human capacities. Jesus spoke to this in addressing the Samaritan woman at Jacob’s well (John 4:13-14): “Everyone who drinks from this water will get thirsty again. But whoever drinks from the water that I will give him will never get thirsty again. In fact, the water I will give him will become a well of water springing up in him for eternal life.” Counselors, psychologists and coaches of many sorts may point us to many sources that will temporarily satisfy the parched state we often find ourselves in while traversing the peaks and valleys of this life. In Pastor Bill’s coaching, we are pointed to the wellspring that will quench our thirst wherever we may go, the one and only fountain that will never run dry. I will be forever grateful that my path crossed Pastor Bill’s who, through the power of the Holy Spirit, has helped bring these lessons in worldly and eternal life to my awareness.
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I found myself experiencing more and more angry outbursts on my daily commute and realized that something was wrong and needed to change. Meeting with Bill helped me to begin to recognize that these outbursts were symptoms of something else. He not only helped me to really understand that death and life are in the power of my tongue, he also taught me how to put the truth of the Word into action. I've not only experienced freedom from anger, fear and unforgiveness, I have the tools to walk out this freedom daily.
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Every day during my time with the Lord I remind myself of a watershed moment in my relationship with Him. Though it may seem silly to some, just three years ago, after walking with the Lord for 20 years, I doubted my salvation. A student of theology and the Bible, I knew there had historically been those who have read the New Testament in such a way that left the question of security in one’s salvation always open to question. Bill challenged that theological position and was able to point out all the scriptures that did confirm my salvation. Though persuasive, I remained unconvinced and I told Bill, I’d "pray about it.” To which he responded, “it’s not a matter of prayer, it’s a matter of belief.” I knew he was right. God could not believe for me when I was not open to changing my mind. Making a decision of my will, Bill and I prayed together as I decided to accept the fact that Jesus loved me too much to let me go.
Later that same evening I made a seemingly unrelated choice to attend a Wednesday prayer meeting at a nearby church for leaders. As the meeting was wrapping up my friend and I headed to the door. But when we reached the door at the back of the sanctuary I had an unexplainable urge to wait just a minute longer. Then, the preacher leading the meeting (of about 800 people) suddenly stopped and said, “There is someone here who has walked with the Lord for a long time, but you have never believed you were saved. The Lord wants you to know, He just can’t do without you…”
God waited for me to choose to believe the truth before he confirmed it with a Word of prophecy. Praise God and thank you, Bill, for the coaching no one else had the courage to give me.
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Recently I have been going through a whirlwind of trouble when it came to anger and not dealing with things spiritually. My relationship with my girlfriend was faltering and my mental health was being challenged. "What on Earth is going on God?", I would pray at times feeling paralyzed in my spirit at work. Fortunately, God puts mighty people in our lives to not stay in places of defeat or from experiencing the enemies tactics of stealing, killing and destroying. Bill Hughes, a man that I met through my girlfriend, has led me to his understanding through his journey and understanding about anger---to practice ridding and escaping from it. His book "Escaping from anger ~ step by step" has pointed me to Jesus and my walk with God has changed a lot. This didn't mean I just read the book and prayed a simple prayer. If a spirit of anger is trying to stay in your temple, your house, it wants to stay forever. A person, like me, needed to get to a point of recognizing the destruction of what our partnership with the evil one can do instead of a God who is for us and not against us. From here I was able to practice memorizing scripture that countered thoughts of anger (or by products leading towards it) that I was hearing. Practicing this takes work and effort and that is why we look to Him who can do immeasurably more than we can imagine. I love Jesus and He is my role model. If he has told us to forgive, we need to obey. That's another key element to freedom. Forgiveness. But of course, putting one's faith and trust in Jesus Christ (and obeying His word--the Bible) is the ultimate key to freedom. Blessings my brothers and sisters who are seeking out truth and hope in the one who leads us to the Father, Jesus.
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Bill uses his deep biblical and spiritual wisdom to connect with God and bring about a very practical and effective path to true forgiveness both of yourself and others. He uses down to earth, in the trenches, guidance to help those trapped by anger to get free of bondage, strongholds and incorrect thinking and live a more vibrant life.
Bill helped me tackle deep feelings of insecurity and worthlessness and see the truth of God's word and His love for me. His simple but wise approach to life, thinking and spiritual growth has allowed me to take on challenges I never would have considered prior to being exposed to his counseling. He, through his communion with God has helped me kick open doors in my life that I was confident would never be visited. He, through God's leading, has helped me begin the journey of rebuilding a relationship with my estranged father and begin to open my heart to true love for him. Heart scars will heal and capacity to love and feel will increase.
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I met Bill after I separated from my husband. I was full of pain, doubts, and all I could feel was darkness around me. God spoke to me through Bill, I was comforted and given hope. Bill listened to me, prayed with me, and shared with me tools to manage my daily fight. For the longest time I was hesitant on reaching out to a Christian counselor because I was afraid of being judged and crushed even more, but instead, I found love and acceptance. I wasn't told what I wanted to hear all the time, but nevertheless, it was done in a caring way. I encourage everyone to have a counselor by their side like Bill, he is truly a blessing.
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I have had the great privilege of serving God with Pastor Bill Hughes for the past 5 years. During this time, I've come to know him as a man of integrity, spiritual disciplined and fully committed to pursuing God's will for his life. Bill is extremely gifted in the area of Pastoral Care and has helped hundreds of people discover freedom in Jesus. His resources in the area of anger of depression are filled with grace and truth and have been of great help to my personal life and to our ministry.
Pastor Bill receives the highest pastoral endorsement from Oasis Church having served this local church with great love and devotion. 2015
Pastor at Oasis Church
Founder of Reach Up Reach Out Ministries